How to Get the IRS to Pay Your Child Support

Child support, as determined by the courts, can sometimes be a heavy financial burden for the non-custodial parent. It's considered a necessary evil, even though it can keep the non-custodial parent from living a comfortable lifestyle for themselves. There are, however, some ways to get the IRS to "help" with your child support payments, in addition to finding a way to get the child exemptions every year for your tax return to help ease the burden of paying financial support to your ex all year round.

* Ask for the tax exemptions for the children every year. IRS tax code states that you can claim a child if it lives with you for over half the year, or 183 days out of the year. However, if you have a court order that states the exemptions are yours regardless, than the court order "trumps" the IRS code. When in the courtroom determining custody, or while working on the parenting plan with your former spouse, consider asking for the tax exemptions every year. This will help get you money back through a refund to help balance out the amount you owed in child support all year.


* Provide medical benefits to your children. In some cases, you can write off the expenses of medical care through your taxes at the end of the year. This can help you tremendously if your former spouse pays half of medical expenses, and you are able to claim the full amount on your own taxes if you initially paid the bills and then were reimbursed by your former spouse for the other half of the medical expenses. This can help increase your refund come tax time.


* Combine your child support and alimony together at "maintenance." Child support is not tax deductible, but alimony is, and it is paid with pre-tax dollars. It counts as a deduction to you as the payor and as income to the payee. This is a simple way to write off what you pay to your former spouse each month through your taxes, and get relief through the IRS.

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Taxes and Child Custody: Who Can Claim the Child as a Dependent? (And Other Exemption Questions)

When it comes to your taxes,
who gets to claim the child
on their tax return as a dependent
when you're divorced or separated?

Whether you're in the middle of a divorce, already have the decree, or are separated from your ex, you may find you have a number of questions in regards to how you'll be filing your income taxes from here on out.  I'm Dennis Gac, and as an advocate for fathers' rights, I hear a lot of questions and horror stories about how come tax time, no one wants to follow the rules in regards to claiming a child as a dependent and filing as Head of Household on their taxes.  Here is a list of the most common questions I receive regarding taxes and child custody.  Click on each question to be led to the post with the answer and explanation as to what should be done in each situation.


I have a court order saying that I have the right to claim the tax deduction on my child even though I'm the non-custodial parent, but the IRS tax laws state that the person that the child stays with more than half the year (in my case, the custodial parent) receives the tax deduction.  Which rule do I follow?

There is no court order in regards to who gets to claim our children on their taxes each year.  IRS code states that the custodial parent (or the parent with whom the child lives with) automatically receives the tax deduction.  What happens if I have no court order regarding who gets to claim the child, and I have joint physical custody of my children?

I am in the middle of a divorce right now with my wife, and plan on filing married, filing separately for taxes.  If we don't have a court order as to who gets to claim the child on their taxes, how do we determine who gets the tax credit for my son?

Does the custodial parent automatically get the tax deduction for children each year?

Are child support payments tax deductible?

In my divorce decree and parenting plan for my children, the court ordered that I would get the tax exemption for my children each year.  My ex-wife is telling me that she is going to file before me and claim the children and head of household to get a bigger tax return.  What do I do?

What is the IRS Form 8332 and what would I need it for?

I receive child support payments from my ex.  Do I have to claim this on my taxes as income?

Taxes and Child Custody: Are Child Support Payments Tax Deductible?

Are child support payments tax deductible?

If they are court ordered as child support payments, no, they cannot be tax deductible.  On the flip side, the parent receiving the child support payments cannot claim the money as income, either.  Just as if you lived together, you couldn't claim the money you spend for clothes, food, and toys for your children on your taxes, and child support payments are considered with that same concept in mind.  However, if you package your child support payments to the court system as “family support” or “maintenance,” you can have your child support payments deducted from pre-tax dollars and then could easily claim the payments as a deduction to, in a sense, lower your child support payments.  Find out more on how to set up deductible child support payments here.

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Taxes and Child Custody: Does the Custodial Parent Automatically Get the Tax Deduction Each Year for the Children?

Does the custodial parent automatically get the tax deduction for children each year?

Yes and no.  By IRS tax code, yes, the parent with whom the child spends the most overnights with is typically the primary custodial parent and will receive the tax deduction.  However, there are a number of situations in which a judge will rule and sign an order to state that a specific parent will have the right to claim the tax deduction every year for their child, or that each parent alternates years in which they can  claim the child as a dependent.  If there is a court order in place in regards to who gets to claim the child on their tax deductions, then that is what should be followed over IRS tax code—IRS tax code is always overridden when there is a signed court order in place.

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Taxes and Child Custody: Married, Filing Separately--Who Gets to Claim the Child on Taxes Without a Court Order?

I am in the middle of a divorce right now with my wife, and plan on filing married, filing separately for taxes.  If we don't have a court order as to who gets to claim the child on their taxes, how do we determine who gets the tax credit for my son?

There are two rules that govern who can and cannot file for a child's tax deduction: court orders and IRS tax code.  If you have a court order, this overrides the tax code rules, but the IRS does have a way of determining who gets to claim a child on their taxes.  The IRS determines a claim based on who the child stays with the most.  This is figured by overnights.  So in 365 days of the year, how many overnights did the child have with you?  If it was 183 days or more, then you could claim the child on your taxes.  The smartest way to do this with little irritation from the IRS is to have your ex sign IRS Form 8332, “Release of Claim to Exemption for Child of Divorced or Separated Parents.”

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Taxes and Child Custody: Joint Physical Custody of My Child and No Court Order Regarding Who Gets to Claim Child on Taxes?

There is no court order in regards to who gets to claim our children on their taxes each year.  IRS code states that the custodial parent (or the parent with whom the child lives with) automatically receives the tax deduction.  What happens if I have no court order regarding who gets to claim the child, and I have joint physical custody of my children?

When the children are split equally time-wise and there is no court order, it can be more difficult to determine who gets to “technically” claim the children each year.  If you and your ex cannot come to an agreement or an arrangement on who claims when, then you have two options—you can either go back to court to have a judge rule and create an order that works best for the two of you, or you could actually figure out who had the children most during the last year.

With no court order, you need to go with what is set forth in Section 152 of the IRS tax code.  Physical time with each parent is considered by how many nights the child stayed at the parent's place.  So out of 365 days, how many days did the children spend the night with you?  If it is less than with your ex, then your ex could legally claim the exemption.  If the children spent more time with you, then you have the right to claim them and claim head of household as well.  As long as your children spent the night at your place for 183 days out of the year or more, then you can claim the children on your taxes and receive the child tax exemption.  If doing it this way, you would need your ex to sign the IRS Form 8332, “Release of Claim to Exemption for Child of Divorced or Separated Parents.”

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Taxes and Child Custody: Do I Follow Court Order or IRS Tax Code to Claim Child Exemption on Taxes?

I have a court order saying that I have the right to claim the tax deduction on my child even though I'm the non-custodial parent, but the IRS tax laws state that the person that the child stays with more than half the year (in my case, the custodial parent) receives the tax deduction.  Which rule do I follow?

Sometimes, when it comes to divorce or custody cases, there are sometimes situations in which the court will rule certain circumstances in regards to claiming a child on one's taxes.  For example, if you were going through a divorce case, you may have mediated with your ex-wife and worked out an agreement that although she had more time with the children, that you were to claim the children on your tax returns as head of household to receive the tax benefits.

When it comes to court divorce decree versus IRS tax code, a signed order by a judge overrides the IRS tax code.  So if you have a signed court order stating that you are the one to receive the tax deduction, then this will override any IRS tax code that is in place in regards to claiming a dependent child.  If you and your ex agree to alternate years, you may need to fill out and sign IRS Form 8332, which is a “Release of Claim to Exemption for Child of Divorced or Separated Parents.”

If you file for the exemption and later find out by the IRS that your ex filed for the exemption on the child against court orders, you would then file through the courts a motion for order to show cause regarding contempt, as your ex would have violated a court order by claiming the child even though a previous order ruled otherwise.

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