How to Avoid Setting a Precedent in Paying Child Support Without a Court Order

During a divorce or legal separation, it may be a while before there are temporary -- or permanent -- orders put into place as to how the non-custodial parent is to financially care for his children. Child support payments are typically not figured out first in a divorce or separation, and are determined near the end of your divorce. Therefore, there may be an extended period of time where nothing is determined in terms of the financial responsibilities of both parents and their children. However, you can avoid making some simple mistakes which can set you up for extremely expensive child support payments in the future.

• Understand that the courts function off of "precedents." If something has worked well for an extended period of time, the courts will typically make orders accordingly.
• Avoid paying too much to your spouse during this unsettling time. Some parents want to do the right thing and help out, but precedents may end up leaving a parent with higher child support payments than they can continue to afford. You may end up paying more than the courts would end up calculating with their standard child support calculations.
• Space out your payments and keep them irregular, recommends the author of the "Fathers' Rights Protection System." This shows that you are at least giving some money to your former spouse to help them out with the children, but that you are helping as you can and not necessarily on a strict schedule. This is important if you're afraid the judge is going to order child support in high amounts, in which you may have difficulties getting it lowered in the future.

Getting child support payments lowered through the courts typically requires you to prove a substantial change in circumstances. This is why it is important to get your child support payments set to a reasonable amount from the start to avoid more expenses and court drama when you find you are unable to support yourself, let alone your children.


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Kate Gosselin suing Jon Gosselin (Jon & Kate Plus 8) for child support?!

According to a number of online sources, including rightcelebrity.com, Kate Gosselin from Jon & Kate Plus 8 on TLC is suing her ex husband Jon Gosselin for $125,000 in back pay of child support.  He was already ordered by the courts to pay her $22,000 a month in child support for their eight children, even though Kate is still bringing in money from the show and gets free promotional items from the show, as long as has her children's food, clothes and toys paid for in full by donations to the show from large companies looking for product placement.

Since Jon Gosselin is no longer able to work for TLC, he cannot afford the $22,000 a month in child support--since he's not making near what he used to when he first split from Kate.  Many people are wondering why he even needs to pay child support when Kate Gosselin is obviously doing just fine on her own with TLC furnishing almost everything for her children.

What do you think?  Is it fair that Kate Gosselin is upset about child support payments from Jon Gosselin that she obviously does not need?  Is it fair that Jon Gosselin is ordered to pay an outrageous amount of child support for children who are handed everything in life, and for an amount that he can no longer sustain now that he is not employed with TLC?